{"id":278,"date":"2010-05-25T14:03:00","date_gmt":"2010-05-25T14:03:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dhr.tiltedchair.co\/2010\/05\/25\/if-i-needed-you\/"},"modified":"2010-05-25T14:03:00","modified_gmt":"2010-05-25T14:03:00","slug":"if-i-needed-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dhr.tiltedchair.co\/?p=278","title":{"rendered":"If I Needed You"},"content":{"rendered":"

Whew. <\/p>\n

Yesterday was Jerry\u2019s birthday, the end of a long month of family birthdays. <\/p>\n

Out of 16 members of our immediate family (Jerry and I, our four daughters, three sons-in-law, six grandkids, and one grandson-in-law) nine of us are blessed with birthdays in the merry month of May.<\/p>\n

(Actually, I suspect the really merry month was September, when the kids went back to school. “Another cup of coffee, hon’?”)<\/p>\n

Whatever, every year it\u2019s like a second Christmas season, except this one doesn\u2019t happen on one day, it\u2019s spread from the third to the 24th, with three on the 15th alone! Generally by the time we get to Jerry\u2019s, everyone is tired of revelry, and broke anyway, so not much attention is paid and then we all feel guilty and have to redeem ourselves on Father\u2019s Day.<\/p>\n

You can always count on Kelly, however, to make the day. <\/p>\n

Not that she was particularly cooperative this year. Sunday I invited her and Sterling over for the birthday supper Monday night but\u2014egad\u2014Monday night is Wal-Mart night! How could Wal-Mart night have not been foremost in my conciousness!?<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s OK, Kel,\u201d I said. \u201cJust wrap your present for Dad and make him a card. Do you want to sing the morning song for him with me?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat time?\u201d she asked dubiously.<\/p>\n

\u201cAbout 4:30 would be good,\u201d I teased.<\/p>\n

\u201cMo-om!\u201d she groaned, stamping her foot. \u201cWe don\u2019t sing at 4:30 in the morning!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWell, as soon as you get here then,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n

Monday morning we had important meetings starting at 8:00, so Jer was out the door scarce before I could plant a birthday kiss on the cheek, just as the whippoorwill was ending his morning serenade at Michael\u2019s back window in Barnabas House.<\/p>\n

At 6:35 I hear a knock on the door and Kelly is standing there in pajamas and slippers, clutching her present and the card she\u2019d made for Dad.<\/p>\n

<\/a><\/div>\n

\u201cSorry, babe, we missed him, but let me get a picture of you for him,\u201d I said. Kelly balked  at this but the camera was handy so I didn\u2019t detain her for long and soon off she pedaled, up the hill and back to bed.<\/p>\n

When I read the card she\u2019d made, I knew we had another masterpiece on our hands. <\/p>\n

Kelly\u2019s cards are always very creative, often touching, and each a true original. They usually manage to sum up with a request for the recipient to assist Kelly with managing some important aspect of her life.<\/p>\n

Happy Birthday Dad<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
72 is a cool age<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
for <\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
a <\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
wonderful<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
special<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
dad<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
I\u2019ve<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
got<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
since<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
1984<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
and<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
I<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
do<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
love you<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
very much<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
with all of <\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
my heart and<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
my life too<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
I want my dad to be happy.<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
Jerry Wayland Horton<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
May 24th<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
1938<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
72 years ago<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
Your mom my grandma had a miracle is you Dad then you<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
were my mom\u2019s birthing coach<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
got me out that<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
is why<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
how much Sterling loves<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
you a lot and so do I<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
you\u2019re <\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
always<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
going<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
to be my Dad forever<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
when you walk me<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
down the aisle<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
on<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
my wedding day<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
I want to marry Sterling<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
can you and Mom give me away to Sterling he will<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
take care of me I won\u2019t forget to \u2026(can\u2019t make out last word.)<\/div>\n

The \u201cbirthing coach\u201d part is true. Jerry speaks often and eloquently about how very hard he worked as my birthing coach, fetching cups of ice, rubbing my back and feet, and performing other acts of mercy and kindness over the long hours of labor, which left him completely exhausted and in severe need of liquid refreshment. <\/p>\n

But I digress. <\/p>\n

Jerry and I went on to have a lovely evening together, just the two of us. <\/p>\n

I\u2019d picked blackberries and made a proper pie for him, and it turned out very well indeed. He opened his presents, over which he professed great delight\u2014none more than Kelly\u2019s and her card\u2014and we picked up the guitar and sang a few tunes together just for old time\u2019s sake, and learned a new one\u2014Townes van Zandt\u2019s “If I Needed You.”<\/a><\/p>\n

It was a sweet evening. <\/p>\n

We do need each other, so much. We\u2019re glad our girl has her place in the world that we\u2019d dreamed of, and that Monday night is Wal-Mart night, and not to be messed with.<\/p>\n

We are secure in her love, and in each other\u2019s, and who could ask for more?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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